Kill Them With Kindness

Hello Sweet Soul, 

Happy Monday Sweet Soul,

Have you ever stumbled upon the saying, "Kill them with kindness"? It's a phrase that’s crossed my path more times than I can count, and each time, it's given me pause to reflect. It makes me wonder about the true essence of responding to negativity with kindness and compassion, rather than echoing back the negativity thrown our way. But what does "killing them with kindness" really mean for us, especially if it feels out of sync with who we are?

We’ve often been told that facing adversity with kindness is a mark of strength and compassion. It’s about being the bigger person, extending peace instead of conflict, turning potential confrontations into chances for growth and understanding. Imagine diffusing a tense situation with a gentle word or an understanding nod. It’s powerful, isn’t it?

But here’s the thing – being that bigger person shouldn’t mean losing sight of ourselves. Authenticity means recognizing those moments when kindness feels forced, when it drains us more than it helps because it’s not in line with our truth. It’s perfectly okay to choose silence, to step away, or to simply not engage when our peace is at stake or when it doesn’t sit right with our values.

This journey of balancing kindness with authenticity is deeply personal. It’s about being honest with ourselves. So, I’m curious about your thoughts and experiences:

  1. How do you react to negativity, and does it reflect your true self?
  2. Can you think of a time when kindness changed the outcome of a situation? What did you learn from it?
  3. Have there been moments when setting boundaries felt more true to you than being overly kind? What was that like?
  4. How do you strike a balance between kindness and staying true to your values during conflicts?
  5. What does ‘being the bigger person’ mean to you, and how does it influence how you interact with others?

Everyday is a new day and whether we lean towards kindness or setting boundaries, allow your choice to honour your personal truth. 

If you’re feeling drawn to explore which path aligns more closely with your values, I’d love to facilitate a healing Shamanic Ceremony to offer more clarity to honour your truest self.

And, if you feel like sharing a personal experience, hit reply. I’d love to hear about what you truly feel about “killing them with kindness”.


With love, kindness and a dash of firm boundaries,